Full Frontal Politics free speech from a phone sex operator

Pornographers are on your side.

It’s true. At least, as regards children accessing porn.

You don’t have to approve of porn to realize the logic inherent in the following statement:

“Pornographers don’t want kids to visit their websites”

“A Pornographers Guide to Protecting Kids from Porn Online,” SugarBank

Actually Sam Sugar raises a good, glaringly obvious point: not all the underage kids accessing porn are children. The vast majority of them are horny, curious, bored teenagers. Saying “children looking at porn” is shortened to “children and porn” which is then blurred with “children in porn” and that gives you the pornography = child porn media situation we have today. The problem we’re talking about is minors accessing porn (yeah, I read my Lakoff), and some of those minors are children stumbling across it unintentionally. If my own teenage years were any indication the rest are horny teens near, at, or over the age of consent in their state of residence, but legal minors and thusly not old enough to buy porn.

Yeah – they can legally screw like bunnies, or get married and produce more horny teenagers, but they can’t legally buy porn.

That’s a good thing. There’s a lot of twisted stuff out there. (That’s also a good thing. Some of us consenting adults like it pretty freaky.) But for a while now it’s seemed to me that the perfect solution to that is to make the natural compromise: it’s okay for teens to enjoy a little softcore, but the hardcore and kinky stuff that I was reading when I was a teenager stays restricted to adults. The idea of teens formulating their ideas of sexuality on Max Hardcore or the Grey Archive is an unsettling one.

I always know I’m right when Sam agrees with me.

As a phone sex operator specializing in BDSM, I’m well aware that most perverts are formed early in life, and often in fairly normal situations. This kind of framework – culture, really – won’t prevent those destined to become kinky but it will do something to help slow the sexual arms race from starting in high school. The logical, healthy approach isn’t to say, “Just don’t – sex is dirty and you should save it for someone you love,” it’s to say “Don’t be in a rush – take your time, enjoy everything being new. There’s no hurry (so say no if you’re pressured) and it’s more fun if you savor it all.”

Sam’s post covers the situation pretty well. He points out that there’s really only one proven age verification solution: parental guidance and monitoring. The problem is, that’s the answer nobody wants.