But topic is a very interesting one.

I’ve worked in the ’sex trade’ for nearly half of my life – I’ll be 38 this year. Mostly prodom work, and I’ve done phones for escort services, worked the bars in strip clubs, done street outreach for underage ’strollers’ with hope of saving them from themselves, and consider the people who – like me – have worked in this underground my soulmates.

Along the way, I earned a Masters in Astronomy, met rock stars, enjoyed being a muse, have lived all over the world, and have laughed a lot – even when it’s the only thing left to do. I wouldn’t trade this life for anything.

A wonderful writer – Terence Sellers – once wrote that sex workers are treated like the clogged drain of society. The debris left in the drain is the use by members of the society. Yet everyone looks at the drain with disgust – as if it is the drain’s fault that the debris is clogging it. Everyone looks at the drain with disgust – even when it is only doing its job.

Any sex business staff – from the lowest hand-job joint in Chinatown to the flashiest strip joint in Miami to the most exclusive dungeon in Berlin – is 50% single moms trying to give their kids a decent life and education.

If fathers were really FORCED to step up and pay for their children’s future? That would cause more damage to the sex industry than any laws or moral police. Throw in socialized childcare and businesses would shut down overnight.

These women took a long hard look at their options. It was never an easy decision. They looked at their child, and looked at their bank balance, took a deep breath, and made a phone call.

That ’society’ is all about “What about the CHILDREN?!…” Oh, spare me. How many Upper West Side moms with their nannies and trust funds and $900 strollers would be willing to body rub strangers at 3 am for their kids?

Lack of education? The last young Mistress I trained passed the NY bar at 20. In the professional dominatrix world, it’s the LACK of a university education that makes a woman stand out. The number of Ivy Leaguers is ridiculous. Do people have any IDEA of the number of female shrinks in Manhattan who paid their way through med school by wearing thigh boots and cracking a whip? And some of them still moonlight for fun.

If ’society’ could get a realistic peek into the reality…like 8 pm on a Friday night at a NYC escort service, while the women are getting ready. They’d be shocked! Not because of raunchy hijinks and revealing lingerie like they are expecting – but because the women look, and act, so NORMAL. They’re the women you see everyday at the post office. Your kids play with her kids after school. She’s a member of the PTA.

While managing one of the top BDSM dungeons in the US, I tutored kids in university prep Calculus and Quantum Mechanics for YEARS. A friend of a friend of a friend referred me to one kid, the parents told other parents. None of them every knew about my ‘real’ job. But I bet they could watch a Law and Order episode and believe the stereotype of a sex worder – usually a victim, a criminal, or brought in for comic relief.

It’s easier for them to think of that rotten drain – to dehumanize, as if they are somehow ‘better’ than us.

For fuck’s sake – the ‘low class’ can’t afford sex workers. Who do you think pays our bills:)!